Yea yea yea, I get it! You’re hot, fun and smart, everyone brags at what a great catch you are. Yet you’re still single? Sure it could be bad luck, or meeting the wrong people but then again it could be you too. Have you stopped to think whether or not you may have any bad habits or subconscious issues getting in your way? Maybe it’s something you’re say, or  doing that has all the good guys running for the hills. Check out the most common ways people ruin their own chances at having a successful relationship listed below.

1. Are you still dealing with issues from the past?

Sure you may be over your ex and don’t want them back. But have you forgive them and stopped hating them yet? If you’re still holding on to the resentment, hate and pain for your ex you are unable to truly move forward with an open heart or mind. You may physically be out of a relationship but you are still mentally connected to them. You have to get over the past before you can move on with your present to ensure a happier future.

2. Do you have your standards set too high?

Make a list of what it is you’re looking for. Then make a list of the things you aren’t willing to over look. What are the “must have’s,” “nice to have’s,” and “absolute no-no’s”. Are you really bring reasonable? Are you turning people away over silliness or stupidity?

3. Do you fall for the wrong type of people?

Do you constantly find yourself attracted to the unavailable? Could your subconscious mind be doing this as a reason for you to keep running away? What is it about these people that keeps drawing you to them? Work out your personal issues before you enter the dating world.

4. Do you have a tendency of opening up and get attached too fast?

While communication is important it’s equally important that you don’t open up too soon. Take your time getting to know people and letting them get to know you. Let them see all your pros before you start unleashing all your baggage on them. If you say too much too soon you can be scarring people away.

5. Are you too clingy or dependent?

Let them breathe! It’s great that you meet someone you like, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend every second together or talking. Give them time for themselves, their work and their friends. By being too clingy and dependent on them you are showing signs of weakness and insecurity. You need to become confident and happy with yourself as a whole, before you can worry about becoming a half with someone else.

There a tons of dating stories that are told by men and women of how their dates in a matter of a few actual dates have already requested that they change something about themselves. Don’t get me wrong change is good, but who are these women to ask a man they hardly know to change something about themselves on the first, second, or even third date? There is a time and place for certain topics to be discussed and the first date is definitely not the place. It can be insulting and just plain rude to do this. Ladies, if you do ask a man to change something about him so soon, expect not to be going on any more dates with this man.

Top 5 Things Women Have Asked Their Dates To Change:

1. Would you try to lose some weight and eat better? This could be extremely rude especially if the man asks you to come over one night to his place to watch a movie, eat take out Chinese food, and even has a bottle of wine waiting to be open later on in the evening. If you are concerned about his eating habits, then bring up the topic during another meeting. Not when he is trying to enjoy a night with you.

2. I don’t like your facial hair, can you shave it off? This isn’t a huge request, but it could be made into a big deal if you demand it or say it in a controlling tone. If you say, “Sweetie, can you please trim down your facial hair it scratches myself when we kiss? I feel bad for asking, especially since you look really handsome with facial hair, but it is really hurting my face.” Adding a bit of flattery, which men love, will get the request done with no tension from your date.

3. Can you start calling me more and not text me so much? This has to do with communication not entirely being there. Maybe he doesn’t like to talk on the phone much, but if you ask him nicely he will be more likely to communicate with you more through talking on the phone. Don’t wait till you become extremely aggravated with the situation.

4. I don’t like your style now. We need to go shopping for new clothes. This can get tricky, because if you began dating a guy that was dressed a certain way, but now all of the sudden it bothers you. You can’t be like “You style is horrible you need to change it now.” Imagine you are dating a man that wears jeans and a t-shirt. You invite him to a friend’s party and once he arrives to pick you up wearing dark blue jeans and a black polo (which is an appropriate outfit to wear to a house party) and you tell him the outfit is not acceptable. The damage is now done; you are basically telling him that he is only good for you in private, but not in public. You want him to be a different person in public and that is not right.

5. Would you learn how to clean up your place? Don’t approach this matter like a “mother” figure, but as a potential girlfriend who wants to feel comfortable in her potential boyfriend’s place. He will soon realize that you just want to be more part of his life style, but the mess is truly getting in the way.

Now, all of these topics, questions, and statements have no place during the first date. This will make the man you are dating push away from you and think that you are just trying to nag and be controlling. If these are concerns that you have you can always try bringing them up nicely in the next upcoming weeks. There are ways to get your point across without making yourself seem inconsiderate. You can always give a compliment and/or a gift along with what you want your date to change. Being polite is the key!

When we look all around us, on tv and even in the movies, we’re constantly seeing the “bad boys” walking away with the girls of our dreams. Why is this; many of you may wonder? Lets stop and think about this for a moment. What is it about “bad boys” that attracts women? What exactly is it about the “bad boy” that makes women desire him? Are bad boys always more physically attractive? Of course not! So what is it?

Well, lets stop and think about what most bad boys have in common.

• They are confident with who they are.
• They don’t care about what people think about them.
• They don’t seek the approval of others.
• They are mysterious.
• They are challenging.

If you look at this list you’ll see that the things that really make “bad boys” attractive really has nothing to do with being bad. It has nothing to d with being bad and absolutely everything to do with being confident with who you are. So if that’s the case, then that just means the biggest nerd in the world can come across as just as appealing then a true “bad boy”. You can look the part and be the part of a bad boy without having the criminal record to go along with it.

Think about it, are the ladies really attracted to these “bad boys” based off their criminal record? Well, maybe there is one or two who is; but, I’m sure its safe to say that most aren’t! It has less to do with being bad and more to do with them being confident, doing what they want and keeping some mystery and challenge alive.

It is great to see when exes have evolved, moved on and being respectful happy for each other. There are some exes that have learned to get along and even some become great friends. Once in awhile exes get together to talk about their current relationships to each other and simple catching up topics. Now the big day comes when your ex has invited you to his wedding. It might not seem awkward to you since you both are good friends now, but there are some things that you should know before you go.

Top 6 Do’s & Don’ts Of Attending An Ex’s Wedding:

Do’s:

1. Do bring a date (if you are given permission too) and make sure this guy is a good guy and that you have known for some time.

2. Do greet the groom and bride when given the opportunity.

3. Do congratulate the bride and tell her that she looks wonderful. But please don’t overdo it and sound phony. Congratulating the bride and saying nice things to her will make her feel more comfortable that you are there.

4. Do communicate with the groom’s family and friends. Be nice to everyone you come in contact with.

5. Do be honest have you know the groom if asked by one of the bride’s party. All you have to say is “We met back in school” or “I’ve known him since we worked together back at the bookstore.” There is no need to make it a point or say “We use to hook up back then.” No one needs to hear that.

6. Do bring a wedding gift if you can or a gift card will be nice as well.

Don’ts:

1. Don’t try to dress in white or try to outshine the bride on this day. The dress should not be too short, too low cut, or too tight.

2. Don’t be overly affection with him. No need to sit there and hug him for more than 15 seconds making him and his new wife uncomfortable.

3. Don’t bring a date that you don’t know just so that you won’t seem single at your ex’s wedding.

4. Don’t bring up your relationship with the groom if not need be. Try to refrain from mentioning things that you two had once shared. If a song is playing that reminds you of the time you and your ex had vacationed at the Bahamas and had a steamy night; keep that story to yourself!

5. Don’t write a long, love note in your greeting card or the guest sign in book to your ex. This is simply inappropriate to him and his new wife. Make sure to include bride in the note and make it short and simple.

6. Don’t hang around your ex’s parents the whole night. This can easily make the bride feel uncomfortable watching you sweet talking his parents.

Now that you have a good idea of how you should dress and act at your ex’s wedding. Enjoy it and be extremely happy for him and his new bride!

Despite the fact that woman are trying their best to take over the world by conquering every job, position and sport imaginable; they still want to be treated like a lady. Regardless to how independent and strong a woman may be she still enjoys the being appreciated and left to feel like a queen. Women still get turned on excited by a man acting like a real man; pull out her chair for her, open the door for her, bring her flowers, compliment her etc.

There are actually still quite a few women out there that seek only chivalrous men. They hold themselves to high standards and seek men who will do the same. In other cases women begin to turn soar  and pull away due to the fact that she does not feel loved and appreciated in the relationship. While men want to come home to a clean house and a cooked meal, women want to feel loved and appreciated for that clean house and cooked meal. I hate to say it but a simple thanks just doesn’t cut it after a while.

How To Make A Woman Feel Loved & Appreciated:

* Call Her! By simply picking up the phone to call or text her that you’re thinking about her can put such a smile on her face. Not to mention returning her phone calls in a timely manner. You don’t have to drop everything the second she calls but you should make it a priority to call her back.

* Give Her Affection For No Reason! Give her a passionate kiss out of know where. Hold her hand, cuddle with her, just go up to her and give her a big hug. By doing these things without the expectation of sex in return, will mean more then you’ll ever know.

* Dress Up For Her! The simple fact that you took the time to get dressed up for her, will make her feel special. Most women are turned on by a sharp dressed man. So put on a pair of slacks and a nice button up shirt and shoes not sneakers every now and then to spice things up.

* Remember Important Dates! Don’t allow yourself to forget important dates such as her birthday, anniversary and holidays. No matter what she may tell you she wants to feel special on these days. Not getting her a card and a sweet gift is just no acceptable no matter what. If you are low on funds that’s fine but you can still take the time to make her a card and something else just as sweet. After all it is the thought that truly counts.

* Spend Time With Her Family and Friends! For the majority of women it’s very important for their man to be able to mesh well with the people important to her. This could be her friends, colleges or family members. By offer to go and spend time with the people who matter to her could really make her day, especially if she knows you don’t really care for them much. It shows her that you are willing to do something for her.

Don’t forget that it’s the little things that count so much! Aside from the things I’ve already listed just keep in mind that it really is the small things that make the biggest difference to a woman. Buying her flowers for no reason, cleaning the house for no reason, taking out the trash without being asked, offering to stay with the kids so she can have a night out with the girls, dedicating a song to her out of the blue, etc. Too often in relationships the true affection that is shared between the couple dies out. For women these little signs of affection are crucial. It’s usually these small things that actually help to turn a woman on and make her feel desired and sexual.

Relationships are hard at sometimes. Many people compare their relationship to a job, and at times that is what it might feel like. Both partners have to work on the relationship to make sure that everything runs smooth and that both partners are happy with how it is going. At the same time, people shouldn’t view their relationship like a job because then they are missing out on the chemistry and connection that is there. Being with the same person after so many years the fire between the two seems to go dimmer by the day, but there are a few secrets and tips that can help bring back that spark you both had once shared and loved.

5 Secrets To Having A Long Lasting Relationship:

Secret #1: Don’t Forget About Your Sex Life

Couples who have a healthy sex life have no problem keeping the chemistry alive and strong. To keep the sex interesting all you have to do is try new things. Either it’s with toys, certain tricks, or techniques; the point is to keep things fresh and exciting. Remember over time people’s preference tends to change and it is okay for you to ask your partner what he/she is comfortable with or what works best for them. Communication is key to keeping your sex life healthy.

Secret #2: Fight Mature and Fair

Every couple fights, but what is key is the way the couples fight. There is a healthy way and then there is an unhealthy way. Learning how to fight fair and respectfully is very important in building and keeping you chemistry. This is due to if couples are constantly putting each other down; then how else are they supposed to feel amorous to each other? No one wants to love someone who doesn’t respect them. Key points are to listen to each other and learn to admit when wrong. Never let the fights enter that personal level where you say or mention things that are completely inappropriate.

Secret #3: Take Time For Yourself

It is okay to spend some alone time every once in awhile. If your partner is off doing something that might take some time; then you should go out to a local bookstore and spend some time reading alone. Taking little breaks from each other allows you to mature and grow as a person yourself and develop different interests that you can share with your partner. Plus, by doing this you can appreciate the time that you do get to spend with you mate.

Secret #4: Keep Romance Alive

The average person spends countless of hours working, running errands, being a family person, etc; but learn to take some time to show your mate that you are completely into them. Rather it’s showing up with flowers and chocolate just because or giving them a passionate smooch while you are waiting in line at the grocery store. Keeping the romance alive and having spontaneous moments really keep the chemistry strong between the two.

Secret #5: Share A Project

Taking on a project together is also very important and it gives you both another opportunity to spend quality time together. Whether it is exercise together or building cars together; it just needs to be something that you both can enjoy together. Having common interests builds on connecting on a personal level together.

Also make sure to give each other compliments every once and awhile. Showing mutual respect and admiration in a relationship allows your partner to know that you love and truly cherish everything that they have done for you. Every once in awhile make a mental list of why you feel in love with this person and what qualities you totally respect about them. Let them know they are always on your mind no matter what.

We all get nervous on a first date with someone. That is just the way us women are built. We want to make sure that we look our best and have a great night with someone of interest. Well men are the same way. They want to make sure that they impress their dates, so they can go on future dates and maybe a relationship. We have all had those moments where we think “I cannot believe he just said/did that?” No worries, because there are some signs that shows he is worth a second date.

Top 5 Signs That He Is A Keeper:

Sign #1: He Is Respectful

If he is respectful to you and the staff at the restaurants this means that he is probably a good guy. Of course, this is the type of man that you would want in your life and your family’s life. If the man is disrespectful to the staff or you he simply thinks nothing of anyone and only cares about himself. Leave the date immediately.

Sign #2: Cell Phone No Where Insight

This is a very good sign. This means that he is very much involved in the date and in you. You have his full attention. If he answers phone calls or text messages, this could very well mean that you are not important and will never come first in his life.

Sign #3: Eye Contact

When a man continues to make eye contact with a woman that means she is his center of attention during that date. He has eyes for only you. Plus, when a good looking man looks into your eyes it is very romantic. Take it all in!

Sign #4: Mentions His Family

During most first dates people don’t get too involved in talking about their families, but when a man mentions a little something about his mother in a positive way this is a very good sign. This simply means that he respects his mother and he will respect women in general. Do be careful if the man may be a mama’s boy. That is simply unattractive and can seriously destroy a relationship in the future.

Sign #5: He Pays For Dinner

It is always a good sigh when a man picks up the tab. This shows that he is a gentlemen and will take care of you in the future.

These signs will help you know if the man is worth more of your time and if going on a second date will be a good choice or not. Make sure to make wise and smart decisions in who you decide is best suited for you.