Yea yea yea, I get it! You’re hot, fun and smart, everyone brags at what a great catch you are. Yet you’re still single? Sure it could be bad luck, or meeting the wrong people but then again it could be you too. Have you stopped to think whether or not you may have any bad habits or subconscious issues getting in your way? Maybe it’s something you’re say, or  doing that has all the good guys running for the hills. Check out the most common ways people ruin their own chances at having a successful relationship listed below.

1. Are you still dealing with issues from the past?

Sure you may be over your ex and don’t want them back. But have you forgive them and stopped hating them yet? If you’re still holding on to the resentment, hate and pain for your ex you are unable to truly move forward with an open heart or mind. You may physically be out of a relationship but you are still mentally connected to them. You have to get over the past before you can move on with your present to ensure a happier future.

2. Do you have your standards set too high?

Make a list of what it is you’re looking for. Then make a list of the things you aren’t willing to over look. What are the “must have’s,” “nice to have’s,” and “absolute no-no’s”. Are you really bring reasonable? Are you turning people away over silliness or stupidity?

3. Do you fall for the wrong type of people?

Do you constantly find yourself attracted to the unavailable? Could your subconscious mind be doing this as a reason for you to keep running away? What is it about these people that keeps drawing you to them? Work out your personal issues before you enter the dating world.

4. Do you have a tendency of opening up and get attached too fast?

While communication is important it’s equally important that you don’t open up too soon. Take your time getting to know people and letting them get to know you. Let them see all your pros before you start unleashing all your baggage on them. If you say too much too soon you can be scarring people away.

5. Are you too clingy or dependent?

Let them breathe! It’s great that you meet someone you like, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend every second together or talking. Give them time for themselves, their work and their friends. By being too clingy and dependent on them you are showing signs of weakness and insecurity. You need to become confident and happy with yourself as a whole, before you can worry about becoming a half with someone else.