I think it’s been perfectly established that men and women are very different in nature and in the way our brains are wired. It’s aggravating but it’s a fact and while they have to deal with our mood swings and emotions, we have to learn to deal and learn why our guys have jerky reactions to certain things. We need to educate ourselves to get a better understanding of their “misconduct” and jerkiness.

Here are some jerky moves guys make when baffled, upset or just being a weirdo. Accompanied by the jerky moves comes an explanation, that will make it all so much clearer for you.

• 1. He goes into his own world when you’re speaking to him.

Guys, at least the majority of them can only handle one task at a time. If he’s not paying attention to you is because he’s most likely submerged and focused on something else. With guys- when they have something on their minds of relevant significance, there’s only room for that.

• 2. Around his friends he pokes fun and teases you.

Not all guys, but many of them once they’re around their friends, it’s like switch flips. He’s totally in guy mode and you know how guys joke around and rough each other up, well they kind of forget who you are and start doing the same. But ultimately he just wants you to fell included. So give the dude a break unless he’s disrespectful. But if he’s just being a little crude and a goof ball, don’t be a stick in the mud, just poke back. It’s fun!

• 3. He’s not sympathetic about your crappy day.

Guys are logical and don’t mean to come off as unsympathetic. While you’re ranting about how you’re so very mad at co-worker or anything else, he’s just thinking of a solution, so you can get over it quickly. It’s kind of like when you rip a band aid off real quick to feel less pain. Well, they kind of see these problems like that, but it certainly doesn’t mean they don’t care.

• 4. He doesn’t help you with plans such as vacations.

Guys live on a day by day basis. Planning weeks or months ahead are almost irrelevant to them, they quickly dismiss these because they’re not happening right there, right now. He’s not trying weasel out of it, he’s just concerned about what he’s going to be doing in the next 5 to 10 minutes to really focus on something that is long term.

So here we’ve given you a clearer view to his psyche. Needless to say, this does not apply to all guys. But it’s a distinct similarity in most men. Give them a break and when you really need their attention 100 percent, call them out. Ask them to please slip out of their little world for a few moments because you’re trying to convey something to him of importance and you really need him to listen. Most likely, this will snap him back into your zone and you will have his undivided attention. Learning what his jerky moves mean will insure more understanding in your relationship.

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